How to Protect Your Energy and Heal After Loss

I want to talk about something incredibly important that has transformed my life—protecting your energy. It's not just about avoiding negativity, it's about intentionally creating a space where you can thrive emotionally and mentally, especially after experiencing grief.

As a mother of five, with one of my daughters, Evelyn James, being stillborn, I know the depths of grief all too well. That pain has shaped my mission to help others who are going through similar experiences. Loss changes you—it strips away the things that no longer serve you, leaving you with the truth of who you are. And through that journey, I've learned that protecting your energy and being mindful of what you consume is essential to healing.

Our minds are like sponges. We absorb everything we see, hear, and experience. This includes the shows we watch, the people we interact with, and even the internal dialogue we have with ourselves. Have you ever noticed how watching a crime thriller can emotionally drain you? That's because what we consume—whether through media, relationships, or environments—impacts our emotional well-being.

This is especially true after a loss. Stress can impact your body, mind, and even your baby if you're pregnant again. During my pregnancy with Emmett, after Evelyn passed, I realized that the negative content I was consuming was making me feel worse. So, I decided to stop watching and listening to these negative influences to protect my peace and well-being, but also Baby Emmetts’.

Being Intentional About What You Consume

It’s crucial to be mindful of what you're allowing into your life, especially if you're in the midst of grief or trauma. For example, watching the news or binge-watching true crime shows can keep you in a state of fear and anxiety. While it's important to stay informed, it's also necessary to protect your emotional energy.

You might find yourself automatically drawn to certain types of media or people that reinforce negative thoughts or behaviors. Maybe it's gossip, complaining, or toxic friendships. But here's the truth: if you're always surrounding yourself with negativity, it’s much harder to shift your mindset.

So, what can you do instead?

1. Set boundaries: Be intentional about the conversations you engage in and the people you spend time with. If someone constantly drains your energy, it's okay to limit your interactions with them. Setting boundaries is not about cutting people off, but about protecting your peace.

2. Watch uplifting content: Shift from negative influences to something that brings you joy or lifts your spirit. Whether it’s a feel-good movie, a positive podcast, or inspirational books, choose content that raises your vibration.

3. Practice gratitude: Focus on the things that bring you peace, joy, and healing. This could be a morning routine, affirmations, or simply taking a walk in nature. Little acts of self-care can go a long way in protecting your emotional energy.

The key to change is awareness. I’ve spent years training myself to be hyper-aware of my thoughts, actions, and emotions. If I notice that something makes me feel bad or triggered, I immediately take action. For example, if I’m feeling down after watching a certain TV show or having a negative conversation, I know that I need to recalibrate.

It’s not about being perfect, but about recognizing when something is no longer serving you and making a conscious effort to change it. This awareness helps you shift your focus to things that help you grow, heal, and thrive.

Creating Healthy Habits for Healing

Healing takes time, and it’s a daily practice. Here are some simple ways to protect your energy and heal after loss:

1. Morning Reset: Start your day with something that grounds you, whether it’s a gratitude journal, an uplifting podcast, or a few pages of a good book.

2. Visualization: Imagine yourself surrounded by a golden light, protecting you from negativity. Neville Goddard’s imaginal acts are a powerful tool for visualizing healing energy.

3. Move Your Body: Whether it’s a gentle walk, stretching, or yoga, moving your body releases pent-up energy and helps you stay connected to the present moment.

4. Nourish Your Soul: Listen to inspiring speakers, connect with supportive friends, or dive into personal development books that uplift your spirit.

5. Self-Compassion: Remember, healing is not about being “fixed.” Some days will feel hard, and that’s okay. Celebrate the small wins—surviving a tough day is an achievement in itself.

As you navigate your grief journey, remember that you are not alone. If you're struggling with grief, whether from pregnancy loss, stillbirth, or any other kind of loss, it's okay to seek support and take time for yourself. Start by protecting your energy—limit negative influences and make space for healing.

I encourage you to implement these practices into your daily routine. It doesn't have to be perfect—just start with one small change and see the difference it makes.

And as always, if you need support, don’t hesitate to reach out. You can email me at vallen@evelynjamesandco.com. Let's continue this journey of healing together.

Sending love and light your way,
Vallen Webb

P.S. I’m launching new episodes on the Podcast, every Friday! Be sure to tune in for more on mindset, healing, and personal development.

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If your a tool and product girl like me, here are a few of my favorite wellness support tools!

1. Red Light Therapy Mask- I like to use mine as I am laying in bed at night and listening to my affirmations. — I’m very jealous they did not have the pink one when I bought it!

2. HydroJug Water Bottle- I know Stanley is all the rage, but it can’t beat this. NO SPILL. They are gorgeous, fit in cup holders and stay cold for hours. It is perfect for adults and kids.

3. Journal- I just bought this one and it is beautiful and functional, so for me a win-win. I bought this for my gratitude journaling and my healing journey. Check out all the designs.

4. It’s Okay, Your Not Okay. - I love this book and actually just bought it for a friend who is in a season of tremendous loss and grief. I think everyone should have a copy.

5. A good PUZZLE- Need something to take your minA good PUZZLE-d off of your loss and your emotional pain, puzzles are a great distraction. This one is gorgeous, I’m always partial to flower puzzles.